This is an on-going post of cool wedding vows and wedding vow ideas.If you have something you would like to contribute – please write me at firstname.lastname@example.org. I am always looking for new original articles / bloggers too. Ring Photo by IanWilliamPhotography.com
If I can draw from the experience of hundreds of weddings, I believe that your wedding vows are the key to the entire experience. The ceremony should strengthen the bond between the couple and allow for an honest and sincere way to express your love. Before I list a ton of wedding vow ideas that you’re welcome to borrow, I wanted to list a few cool vow resources that might be an avenue to personalize something for you future spouse.
- Quote a few lines from your favorite song. Music is an amazing thing. It totally evoke emotions and memories. Using a few lines from a song thats special might create an even more intimate bond.
- Have a private moment to express your love. I incorporate the ring warming tradition into several of my weddings every year. Its a beautiful way to give the lovebirds a time to speak to each other from the heart. The rings are blessed and then passed to every guest, giving each one a moment to pray on the rings and fill them with their love and support for the couple, allowing for diversity in religious belief systems. Meanwhile the couple can walk away to create a picture perfect moment. Silhouette in front of a huge stain glass window or beautiful sunset on the beach, and speak from the heart where no one else can hear them.
- Non traditional Spiritual. Here is a sample of vows I wrote and really like. I usually present some for of this in my first draft to my couples, sometimes never changing them.” With This Ring, I give you my promise that from this day forward, you shall not walk alone. May my heart be your shelter And my arms be your home. May we talk together through all things. May you feel deeply loved, for indeed you are. I give you my heart. I have no greater gift to give. I promise I shall always do my best. I feel so honored to call you my wife May we feel this joy forever and may everyone see our happiness.” slip the ring on the finger and say, ” I thank you and I love you.”
- More Specific Spiritual. “With This Ring, I give you my promise that from this day forward, as I join my life with yours, wherever you go, I will go; whatever you face, I will face. I vow to have the patience that love demands, to speak when words are needed and to share in the silence when they are not. I promise to honor and obey you as you lead the direction of our lives. May our days be long, and may they be seasoned with faith, love, laughter, understanding, and respect. I promise I shall always do my best. I feel so honored to call you my husband May we feel this joy forever and may everyone be witnesses to our happiness.” Slip the ring on the finger and say .” I promise to love you forever.”
- Religious – Lite. My point here is insert your God Deity etc. Personalize this to your religious affiliation.”On this day… I marry my best friend…The one who shares my life, my love, and my dreams. In the name of __ Jesus__ I give you this ring As a symbol of my love and devotion. I offer you my heart, my hand, and my love. I join my life with yours, to walk hand in hand as our _lord__ has show us. With all that I am… With all that I have… I honor you as my wife / husband forevermore.”
- The Kids. This marriage effects them too. Even if they are older and this is a second marriage, everyone’s loves will be forever changed with your marriage commitment. I love incorporating a family unity candle or sand ceremony so they can “DO” something too. here is a sand ceremony idea.
___ & ___ you have exchanged vows making a commitment to share the rest of your lives with each other. Your commitment is not to be taken lightly – it is a promise that can never be undone. And as you are promising your love to one another, you are also pledging your love to your children, committing to them that you will create a family together. Children please each add your pebble to the sand vessel. This will symbolize the importance of each of you as individuals, but also a joining of your lives together as one family. “I now ask that the bride and groom blend their containers of sand together pour the sand in the vessel together.
The blending of this new family will have a deep influence upon each of you. Hold tight and trust each other, share and talk to each other, have patience and love each other. Together you will laugh and cry, be sick and well, be happy and angry, share and grow. The individual containers of sand no longer exist, as they are now joined together as one. Just as these grains of sand can never be separated, so we pray, the love and bond between the two of you will make you inseparable. Forever united together in love.
- Longtime commitment – now finely getting married. I have been in the local forefront of marriage equality performing ceremonies for same sex partners and performing LGBT commitment ceremonies for over 30 years. This is a sample of vows I wrote for one said lesbian couple whom, after 36 year was able to tie-the-knot legally in my home, the LittleWeddingVenue.com Vows: ” ___ I have loved you for 36 years, and today I reaffirm my love and commitment to you. With this ring, I pledge to you my love and respect, my laughter and tears, and my trust and support. I believe in us, and marry you with my eyes wide open. With all that I am I honor you. And I am committing myself in marriage to you for the rest of my life.”
Resource links I found really helpful.
The Poetry foundation has a great resource for vow wording. Check out the wedding poems link here.
Hallmark gives instruction on how to write your wedding vows. This article is a great resource. http://ideas.hallmark.com/wedding-ideas/how-to-write-wedding-vows/